Setting up a family structure for peace, harmony, health, safety, consistency, and happiness is the responsibility of parents. The rules are made by the parents and bestowed upon the child in a one-way parent-to-child direction

Connecting is the process of entering the child’s thought world by listening non-judgmentally one-on-one to the child. The flow travels from child to parent as the parent attempts to gain the child’s trust by being patient, allowing time for the child to process thoughts, and acknowledging the child’s thought-fears. Connecting with a child should be designed to be deep and lasting. The child can develop psychological resilience and prosocial behavior by learning to handle thought-fears that limit or harm and embracing thought-fears that motivate and protect. The goal is to have the child express deep thoughts with little emotion and without parental lecturing. The parent should have a mindset of bringing out the best in the child with minimal guidance.